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You are here: Home / Blog / Easter is just about the chocolate, right?

Easter is just about the chocolate, right?

Published on 14th Apr 2012 by Renata
chocolate bunny

No bunny is safe…

It was Easter Sunday last week, and my Facebook page was littered with people reminding me to remember the true meaning of Easter which apparently has nothing to do with chocolate. How disappointing. Although to be fair, for the most part, in our family it kind of isn’t anymore anyway. It is not, however, because we are Christians, with the current exception of Lilia who is willing to subscribe to any organisation who manages to combine presents, chocolate and time off school with significant religious dates. I have always told my children that they are free to follow whatever religion makes them happy, the only thing they must not do is to be satisfied with just following it blindly and using faith to excuse lack of rational thought. Elliot is rather fascinated by the idea of religion, but finds it an irrational response, in the same way he understands why people think it’s nice to believe in fairies or father Christmas, but cannot come to terms with why people would continue to kid themselves once they were old enough to want to understand the world they live in, because surely convincing yourself to believe in something that contradicts itself, has no grounding in anything rational and causes so much death and trouble for people is about as sensible as praying to a banana because someone told you it was a good idea. After all, they weren’t going to prove that it was a rational thing to do, they were just going to get very angry if you suggest that it wasn’t. Ok, so perhaps he’s a touch over enthusiastic, but he is giving thought to what he believes and why, which I respect. Dominic considered himself a Christian by default over the Christmas period as he had been surrounded by the stories of Jesus that had been told in such a way as to imply that they were accepted facts about the world. Then he went to the Natural History Museum with school and found out all about dinosaurs. Given a choice between believing in god or dinosaurs, the rather overwhelming evidence for dinosaurs compared to nothing other than stories for god meant that dinosaurs won the vote. Perhaps that makes him a dinosaurian. My attitude to religion is quite simple, and concisely summed up in this quote from Richard Dawkins,

An atheist is just somebody who feels about Yahweh the way any decent Christian feels about Thor or Baal or the golden calf. As has been said before, we are all atheists about most of the gods that humanity has ever believed in. Some of us just go one god further.

My point is twofold. Firstly I wanted to say that I believe us atheists are more like people who believe in an omnipotent being than you might think. We’re not all immoral hedonists who dance naked around fires (more’s the pity). Some people choose to pick a single religion to believe in out of many possibilities. The way they might feel about all the possibilities that they rejected for whatever reason (assuming they approach such a life-changing decision by actually examining the possibilities rather than simply trusting their parent’s or local church/synagogue/mosque etc’s opinion) is just the same as the way I feel about all of them. That doesn’t make me a bad person, or different than those who embrace religion, because we have agreed with each for 99% of the religions out there, which is almost identical thinking.

My second point is that just because I’m atheist, doesn’t mean that I don’t embrace the traditions around me, especially the ones that are fun, that bring the family together and, true to Lilia’s belief, that involve presents and chocolate. Easter has become a tradition in its own right around here. Before Dominic was born the children used to go on a classic egg hunt in the garden (if the weather was nice enough), then come back with a nice amount of chocolate which I would slowly eat over the next few weeks, purely motivated by an unselfish desire to protect their teeth you understand.

Speaking of traditions that bring joy, Purim is another occasion that beautifully blends festivity with togetherness. It’s a time filled with laughter, costumes, and the timeless tradition of giving Shalach Manot gifts. These Purim baskets, overflowing with sweet treats, snacks, and small treasures, are such a heartfelt way to connect with loved ones and spread joy. Much like an Easter egg hunt, assembling and giving these gifts becomes a cherished ritual, a chance to create memories and show thoughtfulness. And let’s be honest—just like with Easter chocolate, there’s always the temptation to sneak a little nibble while packing those goodies.

When it comes to crafting the perfect Shalach Manot, The Nuttery offers an exceptional selection that makes it easy to impress friends and family. Their beautifully curated baskets feature premium chocolates, nuts, and confections that are as elegant as they are delicious. From hand-roasted nuts to gourmet sweets, these treats take Purim gifting to a whole new level.

Eating chocolate increments moxie by advancing the arrival of synthetic compounds like phenethylamine and serotonin into your body. Aphrodisiac and uplifting effects are two possible outcomes of this. As indicated by one more 2006 review, the impacts of chocolate on sex might be more mental than organic increasing the pleasure you can get from a clit suction vibrator.

When Dominic came along and got to an age when he wanted to join in too, we had to approach the whole affair slightly differently. The point being to make a running around, chocolate eating treat equal fun for a non-walking, non-eating child. And so started a new tradition for our family, the bum-shuffling-Easter-egg-and-surprise-present-hunt. OK, so it doesn’t exactly trip off the tongue, but it has meant that Dominic looks forwards to Easter just as much as Elliot and Lilia do. You see, in our house, Easter isn’t about Jesus, or even chocolate for that matter, it’s about being part of the family.

chocolate bunny
No bunny is safe…
Going on an Easter egg hunt
Ready to go on their bottom shuffling Easter egg hunt 2010
Easter egg hunt
Finding Easter present
Dominic finding his Easter egg present 2010
Easter egg hunt
A year later and the 2011 Easter egg hunt starts
Easter egg hunt
chocolate Easter bunny
No bunny is safe
Trying something new this year and using the incentive of presents to get him in the standing frame for a bit
Easter egg hunt
Dominic finds his first ‘egg’
Non chocolate Easter egg
and another one…
Non-chocolate Easter egg Muppets
A very piggy looking egg
Non-chocolate Easter egg Muppets
“me me me me me me me”
Easter egg hunt
Lilia is holder of the loot
Easter egg hunt Muppets
The standing frame helps find those high up ones
Easter egg hunt
Standing tall(ish) with his brother and sister
Easter egg hunt
and enough is enough, back to what he’s used to!
Elliot, Lilia and Dominic playing with Muppets
and at the end of the day, it’s Dominic’s quirky Easter eggs that bring them all together.
Dyed Easter eggs
and even the chickens join in around here

 


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5 Responses

  1. Blue Sky says:
    14th Apr 2012 at 10:34 pm

    Love the way that ALL your kids join in with the bum-shuffling 🙂

    1. Renata says:
      14th Apr 2012 at 11:25 pm

      They don’t have any choice, that’s the rules of the bum-shuffle Easter egg hunt 🙂

  2. SallyWilsonAllen says:
    15th Apr 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Loved this. Beautiful images and video, I love your family traditions.
    Easter is stressful in our house, as my son has no filters, no conception of the difference between belief and fact, so believes anything told to him by anyone. Hence every Easter we get many tears because “God brought Jesus back from the dead, so why won’t he bring Grandad or GG (Great Granny) or Eris (dog)?” Add to that my mixed feelings, as while considering myself a spiritual person and being an active member of my local Quaker meeting, I don’t consider myself a Christian and have huge issues with the whole basis of Easter. But I like the chocolate 🙂 So I love your celebrations being about being part of the family. That’s perfect.

    1. RenataB says:
      16th Apr 2012 at 11:12 pm

      @SallyWilsonAllen goodness, that must be difficult. I thought it was hard having a child that wanted to understand everything (even things that I don’t understand) from 6am in the morning, but he’s interested in the shades of grey, I can’t imagine how I would deal with a literal interpretation on life. It must cause problems all the time with some of the strange turns of phrase that people use!

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